I feel really bad. I have been neglecting my website. It’s not that i didn’t have anything going on. On the contrary. Lots of stuff, but I was writing them in my journals instead of online and also on Facebook.
Here’s whats been going on. If you recall, I created a bucket list and on that list I had to speak at events. So, I took the leap and posted on my facebook page that I was becoming a motivational speaker and asked people if they wanted me to speak at events. I didn’t get a response, but I got some suggestions for place to look. Thanks ladies.
I also sent out an email to a speaker asking her for advice on who’s a motivational speaker and..what does it take to be one. She replied back. She is very busy woman, so I was supper happen. When I first read the email I was upset, but more hurt because it felt like she didn’t believe I could speak. But, when I read it again, and again, and one more time…juuuust to be sure I read it correctly, she was giving me great advice on ways to help me reach my goal. Thanks Rhonda. She was right. I needed to either have a topic to discuss and answer the question “why would people pay me to speak”. What makes me sooo wow? The first thought in my head was…”She’s right…who wants to hear what I have to say? Why would anyone with a brain whos already successful want to hear me”. But there is this little nagging voice that keeps saying to me…”just keep at it. Write the book.”
I was searching out Canadian motivational speakers when I found an article from Forbes called “There’s no such thing as a motivational speaker“. I was angry when I saw this because I KNOW there are speakers like that, but when I read the article, it completely made sense. They explain that the speaking is the activity and that i needed to find something that i was passionate about to speak on, have a topic that can help people, then write a book about it, speak at events.
Wow, what a wake up call. I was doing this all backwards. I was putting “the cart before the horse”. In other words, I was trying to get speaking gigs without having a program, a book, or even something to talk about.
Does this sound like you? You hear speakers reach into your soul and you say to yourself “self, I want to do that. Yes, that’s what I want to do.” Maybe its just me who talks to herself like that? That’s exactly what I do…A LOT! I get an idea to do something…like speak and then start researching the idea, but nothing happens because it was feeling like this is soooo much work. I was struggling with finding a speech to write about, how to come up with the points to discuss, but after that article. I feel like now I am on the right path. First I am going to finish writing my book that I have been writing for almost 2 years and see what happens. I am writing it mainly for me as it was a way for me to release my feelings, but if it helps you, then I am even MORE happy.