Has this happened to you? You’re working the night before on a story for your website or maybe you were surfing the net. You’re not thinking anything and go to bed only to wake up to your computer not working? Here’s my story of what happened last week. I got up on Saturday morning looking forward to write another story, but I need my coffee first. So, I poor myself a nice cup of coffee and when to my office to turn on the computer and…BAM!!! Blue screen of death. My computer died. I tried to reboot it SEVERAL times, but it wouldn’t start up. I unplugged it as that was one of the words I think it said on the screen before it really died, and still no change. When the computer does come back on the words on the screen say “unmountable boot volume”. What’s going on. I just got the screen replaced the week before because I somehow dropped it and it cracked. By the way, you can easily replace the screen yourself once you buy a new one from a computer store. Save yourself $100 on installation fees.
Have you ever thought you wanted something so bad only to realise you didn’t want to do it anymore? Well, that’s me right now with my book. I have been writing for over a year now and love writing my stories, but when I started taking the training on how to write my book, it started out great. I was learning how to formulate it, coming up with topic sections because I was struggling with it, but then it got into how to promote your book. I wasn’t ready for that. I wanted to be sure I was on the right path. I was assuming they were going to review and provide feedback on a chapter, but they continued on the following week and it was about revising the stories and sending them out for review to 5 different people for each chapter, oh and it needs to be done in 90 days. WOW, I started to panic and then lost my MOJO interest for writing the book. I hit a wall! Everything I was working towards, all of a sudden was stopped. My fitness plan for walking/running or working out – STOPPED! My making dates with my man…STOPPED. Spending time with my friends – STOPPED! Cleaning up my office..STOPPED! I was feeling overwhelmed. All because the book was no longer fun and had too many tight deadlines. I was no longer enjoying my writing, which was what the point of writing, to enjoy and tell stories.
I convinced my man to take a vacation south while I was taking this book writing training. I just needed to get away and he found us an amazing deal to St.Lucia. So, we got the time off and off we went. I was so relaxed and had so much fun. We saw a volcano, went on a catamaran, did snorkeling and so many more things. Then, it came time to come back home, and I was feeling anxious again. It’s like I never went on that trip. I wanted that fun feeling back, but I knew I had to get back to preparing for my workshops and finish revising and promoting my book. I met with my awesome friend and energy coach Christine, and she gave me some good advice. She suggested that maybe I should book the book idea on hold for now, and write blogs instead of focussing so much on my stories being a book. She asked if I liked writing and I do, and I also enjoy motivating people, which was why I wanted to write the book. So, that I would have a tool to use when I speak at events. She suggested that I continue writing my stories, but with the lessons or action plan on my blog. Wow, that just made all the anxious feeling go away. She said one word that stood out. RESET! That’s it. I needed to reset, not start over, but change directions as to what I really wanted.
I just remembered my counselor saying…”don’t worry about the book, it will happen. Just keep writing”. I did it again, I want the project to be done, so I start to rush through things, but when it gets to the part where I have to verify, I get antsy and just don’t want to do it, so I procrastinate on everything else. I want to move on to the next project, instead of just enjoying the process of writing. The book will get published when it’s time and not before. My life journey is unfolding and the book is just that…my journey.
What’s the message in hear for you?
If you have a project you’re working on and no longer enjoying it, like writing a book, doing your taxes, researching information for your website, or maybe sewing a dress for a client, take a break from it. Just give it a few days rest, or however long you need, but not too long, or it will be hard to come back. During that time, go and do something fun for yourself. NO ONE ELSE. Just you. Your head and heart might be telling you “we need fun”. If it’s something you have to do for a client i.e. they are paying for it, you have 3 choices: 1) contact them client to ask for an extension, 2) set time aside to get it done so you can get paid, or 3) hire someone else with the necessary skills and have them do it. It doesn’t always have to be you doing the work. After the project is complete, ask yourself if it’s something you enjoy doing. If it’s not, you should not advertise these services or if you do, sub-contract them out.
My weakness is revising things. I love creating instructional guides to use for teaching, but I hate having to revise them to make sure of spelling and the flow. It takes away from my creativity. So, I hire or barter out this part of my work. This way, I am still productive, but it’s not draining on me.
What ways do you use to move your project forward, or are what fun thing are you going to do to take care of yourself? Please write your comments so we can all help one another.
I am selling the book I wrote called “Turn your cottage into money” and needed to have an invoice, but I wasn’t sure what to put on it and I didn’t really want to set it up. So, I naturally searched Google and found Vortex42. They have a TON of forms to help you with your business. One of them I used is the invoice template. It worked great and very easy to use.
How to get stuff done when you have too many things to do
Are you feeling that you have so much to do, but not enough time? You have a full-time job and you are trying to run a part-time business. Maybe you have a family and you need to help with homework, or you have to get dinner ready. And let’s not forget house cleaning, and getting groceries. YOU JUST CAN’T DO IT ALL! Or can you? If you can, you are SUPERWOMAN and I bow to you. But for those who are like me and can’t, here’s my suggestion to help you get through it.
STOP! Take a breath. Breathe in and out sloooooowly. I know you feel like you don’t have time to slow down, but ask yourself this “do I feel like I’m getting things done or just too tired to do anything?” So again, I am asking you to Breath in deep and breath out sloooooowly. Do like the turtle at my cottage does..walks like no one is in a hurray. So, you have to go around him, but I stop and smile at him because it’s a reminder to me too. Now, we can talk.
Can you relate to how I’m feeling? I’m trying to grow my business, but I’m working full-time and then when I do have some free time, I’m told I need to write an article or a blog and post it on my website and tell EVERYONE I know, then go out and network with people but what happens if you don’t these types of events i.e. dancing or just talking to strangers, and when I do meet people I have to try and get them to become clients. Don’t forget when you get home, make dinner, clean the house, take care of the dog, the kids and the man! Arrrg:( I feel exhausted just thinking about this. What happens for me when I feel like this I get paralyzed and don’t want to do anything. Do you get that way too? Well don’t worry, I have found a solution and I’m going to share it with you.
Step 1 – chunk it down.
I met with my Coach Christine and I gave her a list of things we need to do to grow my business and she said “it’s A LOT!” I knew that to mean, she won’t do all of it.lol So, I asked her to give me some suggestions to how I can make it more manageable and she broke the tasks into manageable chunks. So, instead of having a list of 42 things to do, I now have 5 things to do to grow my business. For example:
Write a 1 page business plan (goals) to identify why you want to run your own business. what does it look like (vision board) and how will you keep with your goals on those tough days (affirmations), etc.
Action Steps to get growing
create 5 pages for my new website, find fun images to add to it, brainstorm ideas of things I can write about, etc.
Spread the word
create an elevator pitch to use when meeting new people (networking and having fun)
schedule each of these tasks, but also check after each month what happened i.e. did i get more prospects, what event had more of my ideal clients or people who could refer them to me, check my 1 page business plan to see if i’m on target and if not what do I need to do to get back there i.e. remember why I’m running a business (vision board).
Home…not so sweet home
Here’s my suggestions to help with the house chores and finding ways to reduce time and money.
let your partner and kids know that you’re feeling overwhelmed and ask if they could help with the chores. I’m amazed when I ask nicely how he does things for me, even at times without asking.
or do what I do and call a cleaning to come and clean at least once a month. I am SUPER happy when she does and….my man gets more loving wife because of it.
this could be fun, but also time consuming. I look on Pinterest to find 7 day meal plans, then I prep at least 3 breakfasts & lunches and snacks and dinner we do each night because we like to eat fresh, actually he likes it more fresh than me, but he does the BBQ, so I don’t say anything:)
For me, chunking things down and asking for help has been a huge relief because I can now feel more relaxed and I have to remind myself that I don’t have to do it all, and it doesn’t have to get done right now.
Let me know what happens, and if you have other ideas please share. The more ideas we have, the more we can help each other eliminate or reduce the overwhelm.
I’ve been reading Jack Canfield’s bookThe Success Principles – How to get from where you are to where you want to be. One of the activities he ask you to do is to write out a list of 101 goals you want to accomplish before you die. At first I thought it was fun because I love writing lists, but then I got stumped. I think I got to 53 and then nothing. No more fun ideas came. So, I put it asside and asked my mastermind group, which is only 1 person and myself, what he put on his list. This helped get the juices flowing again and I managed to come up with 123.
Here’s what I plan do to before I die. Now, I need to warn you because there’s one on the list that I had to remove because it’s rated R for adults.
Written weekly blog that describe my life and how I achieved and had fun
Go on 365 fun dates with the Man
Go on a fun cruise ship vacation with great food and lots of ports to visit
Ride in a Hot air balloon
Build a storage or small cottage using free pallets
Buy an investment cottage paid in full
Scuba Dive in the ocean and find treasure
Celebrate my 10 year anniversary (year 2021) with the Man with family/friends that is so much fun doing games, eating, laughing
Take part in a New Years Eve scavenger hunt
Attend my high school reunion in 2020
Move into a beautiful 3 bedroom beautifully decorated and very cozy home with a basement and garage for the Man and an office for my business.
Go horseback riding with friends and loving the ride and the air
Go see a US football game
Travel to Italy, ride the gondola and eat real pizza
Travel to Greece, eat greek food and swim in the crystal water and sit on the edge of mountain looking out
Travel to Thailand – eat, meditate and ride the boat and ride an elephant
Travel to India – meditate and take a yoga class
Travel to Las Vegas to people watch and go and see Cirque du soleil
Travel to Nashville to listen to country bands like Garth Brooks, Tim Magraw
Travel to San Francisco and ride the trolley
REMOVED, but still on my person list to do…RATED R
Go see a live circus
Do a weekend camping trip where you sleep outside and ride horses all day
Go zip lining and scream “I love my life”
Learn to surf
Take part in a polar bear dunk
Attend a drum camp with Camp Ocanto (drumcamps.ca)
Attend an Eco Expo and learn and be open (ecoexpo.ca)
Take a bar/ballet class (insideoutstudio.ca)
Make a pattern and sew a beautiful dress to wear anytime
Go see the Summer Olympics in a foreign country and explore the culture
Are you self-employed living pay check to pay check? Do you have any money saved for retirement? Maybe you have a part-time business like me because you won’t have enough even with a government pension.
Are you assuming the government will take care of you? Or maybe you don’t plan to retire, but what if, just what if, something happens to you and you get injured? Do you have disability insurance?
I met a nice man a little while back and he told me sheepishly that he’s 55 and doesn’t have anything saved:(. I feel so bad for him because he will have to work until he’s 70 to at least get something to live on because CPP and Old Age Security doesn’t’ kick in until then, and I’m not sure he will qualify for it because he doesn’t contribute to it.
I gave him a suggestion that I learned to do 20 years ago and that was to start saving a small amount every month to help put towards retirement. I suggested 3 – 5% for the first 6 months, and then increase it to 6 – 10% for the next 6 month, up until he’s got at least 20% put away. For example, if you were making $2,000 a month, 3% of that would be $60 a month. I’m sure you can manage that. Heck, I’ve bought dinner out for my man and I and spent that. However, if you times that over 10 year, that will only be $7,200. But if he gradually gets to 20% and saves that for 10 years, he will have $48,000 and that’s without interest being accumulated.
Now, if you want to get free money from a bank, I would suggest you open a Tangerine account for retirement savings and they will give you $25 or $50, depends which promotion their doing, just for opening and account.
I just made $50 from Tangerine bank which is affiliated to Scotia Bank. Do you want to make $50 easily from a BANK??? My friend emailed me telling me that Tangerine was offering new clients $50 just for opening an account. The only catch to getting the $50 is that you have to deposit $100 and that’s it. My friend also said you can even take your money back later, but I was actually looking for a way to save more for my vacation. So, I plan to leave it there and let it grow. It’s VERY legit. Here’s what happened. I opened the account and got an email to say congrats and asked me to verify if there was a deposit in my regular bank account, which there was. I think it was 24 cents. I thought that was funny. Hey, it’s still free money again. Then, I got another email telling me that in order for myself and my friend to each get $50 I would simply need to deposit $100 into my new savings account. Once Tangerine verified, I would get an email confirming it was deposited and that’s it. So, I deposited the money and within a few days got $50 in my Tangerine account. Woohoo! The bank is finally paying me for doing business with them.
If you want to get the same deal, just go to www.tangerine.ca and when it asks you to enter Referred by a friend, please enter my Tangerine account #46012150S1 and that way, we will both get money from the bank.
Now, if you want to get even more money from them, they are also offering $25 I think for simply doing an automatic deposit monthly. I believe the amount is $100 each month, which again I am doing because I want the extra FREE money and, I am saving for my trip in December down south.
Now, if you want to help our your friends too after you open up your account, tell your friends the same thing and get them to open an account and they and you too will get FREE money deposited.
Last week I told my man that I would get rid of the clothes, shoes and stuff I haven’t worn or doesn’t fit. Reason is because they are just sitting in a box, but I really liked them and didn’t want to give them up. I thought to myself that someone will buy them, but I wasn’t doing anything to get them sold. Actually, that’s not true. I posted them on Facebook, but maybe the images weren’t the best, but only one of my friends acknowledged. That’s not what I was hoping for. In any case, I went for a walk today during my lunch hour and saw a cute little consignment store (Second Glance). I remembered my coach Christine telling me about it and that they had reasonable prices and good stuff. So stopped in and sure enough, they had really cute items and very reasonably priced, but as I looked at the labels, they said Jones New York, Zara or Jacob. So, my negative ego said “don’t ask, she’s going to say no”, but my other side, the intuition or what my coach calls “the whisper”. She was telling me “just ask….just ask…you have nothing to lose”. So I did. I asked Paula Norton, the owner for her business card, and asked if she only sold brand labels and..she said “no, we sell everything.” I told her about my situation about having bought clothing online but the sizes were not correct.
I pointed at my top I was wearing and she said to bring them in as they will likely sell fast. Sorry for the bad photo. I was trying to do this with a Nokia and well, the phone doesn’t take the best images, and…I need a selfie stick to be able to take photos of myself while doing things like selling items. I then asked Paula and her team if there was a trick to getting creases out without having to iron because the clothing has been in bags that were shipped and also in the boxes. Her employee replied “you don’t have to, I’m the ironer.” Say Whaaat??? Turns out they iron and…they use their own hangers. So, I don’t have to do anything. Talk about amazing service and everything I wanted. Oh and she said “we don’t do bookings. Just come in when you can, except on Thursday and Saturday because those are our busiest days.” Not a problem because most of the times that other places accepted drop offs, I wasn’t able. Talk about a win-win.
I am SUPER happy because
1) I am doing what I promised my man I would do i.e. get rid of stuff,
2) not just getting rid of stuff, but selling it to someone who will appreciate them as much as I do, and
3) making some of my money back which will go directly into my savings for retirement. It’s not going to be much, but hey, it would have been $0.00 if I didn’t start.
Moral or purpose of the story is, if you are trying to grow your business or make room for other things in your life, you have to be willing to let go of the past so that your future can move in. Let go of the clothes that no longer fit. Give them to someone else who will wear them with pride. Sign up for that coaching program, knowing that full-well you will make that money back that you paid for it.
Stay tuned to June 30th to see how much I made.
P.S. I’m trying to track to see how long it takes to write a blog and this one took 30 minutes. So, if you’re looking to create a business and will need to write blogs/stories for it, take note that the average time it takes a newbie is about 25 – 35 minutes.