Discover my life purpose – Day 2 – right idea, wrong tool

OK, it’s not day 2, because I haven’t written daily about this, but it’s Day 2 with regards to my project of finding what I’m meant to do with my career and I think I have figured it out.

I have been working on a book about my life and my experiences because that’s what I thought I was meant to do i.e. to write a book about my life story and speak about it at events. The book was going to be used as a giveaway at speaking events.

While I was trying to write the book, I was trying to write it the way that the experts were telling me, but I just couldn’t get it. I was struggling with it and procrastinating. My book idea just didn’t fit the way they suggested to write it. I wanted to write my stories in more of a theme of sections like career, relationship, family, money, etc. I had all the stories, I just couldn’t figure out how to put it in the format that they suggested. One suggested put it in a “how to”, but would have to rewrite the stories to fit the “how to” model. Another suggested doing research and having other information from others in my book, but that too felt wrong for what I was trying to do.

So, when it came time to start putting the book together, the experts said to start with the table of contents, but I had all my stories written out already. How was I going to work backwards? The book had to be built around a theme of solving a problem, but I had so many problems of my own that I just wanted to share them with others in the hopes they would laugh, cry or maybe use what they learned to improve their lives. Well, when I did come up with a theme, I would ask a few friends what they thought and before they could tell me, I rewrote another table of content, so i started working on those story idea, but then another theme came to mind and I started on that one, but I wasn’t able to come up with new stories for any of the table of contents because, for me, they felt forced. I wasn’t enjoying the process of writing anymore. I was blocked. I was talking with a friend and she helped me to see that maybe it’s not a book I’m meant to write, but rather a blog about all my experiences, and maybe later, a book might come of it, but for now just to write and enjoy it. She was right. I loved just writing about the experience and not about putting it into book format to meet someone else’s needs. I needed to do this for me first, and that’s when it finally clicked. When I got in my car after leaving work, I cried because it felt like I finally new what I was meant to do. No more struggling to figure it out.

So what am I meant to be doing?

I’m meant to share things with people from my life experiences, but what tool should I be using, that’s what I’ve been struggling with. Well, I think I got it! I’m a BLOGGER. I even love the sound of the title. I’m meant to write, but not in a book. I’m going to write my stories in my blog. This feels right and…I have fun doing it.

So, what will I write about?  

OMG, where do I start. I love to write about my cooking adventures thanks to Pinterest, dates I go on with my man and friends, careers I’ve tried or rather jobs I’ve tried and quit, businesses I’ve had and closed or failed at, deals I find and what I really thought of the deal, and the scary stuff about my past and what I did to overcome them, and so much more.  I am going to share real life experiences, the good, the bad and the ugly., relationships I gave up on, friends that come and go, family or lack there of, and my health which includes all the above, but also my mind and body, which I have abused a wee bit. Hey, I never said I was perfect. I’m a work in progress.

So, what’s my blog? My name is Tina Lalonde. I’m the owner of the blog La Femme Ottawa where I write I open up honestly about what I’ve learned about myself and life experiences. This is going to be real and raw. I’m scared to write about personal stuff, but I also know that this feels right. If it can help someone else from making the same mistakes, then it’ll be worth it. If you’re going to read it and comment, all I ask is that you be gentle with your comments. This is not a place for people who are not willing to put themselves out there. If you have good suggestions, I will gladly listen, but if you’re only trying to bring me down, I have one word for you..DELETE!

Thank you and please share with those you think will enjoy reading it.

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Great deals for t-shirts to promote your business or sell them?

I was searching to find deals for business cards other than Vistaprint, even though they have AMAZING deal for $10 you get 500 business cards, when I came across a deal for t-shirts. I was surprised because it brought me to Kijiji and there was NO business cards, but what there was are t-shirts for $6.99!


I was thinking of getting shirts made for when I speak at an event and want to have it as a give away. I think they would be great to give away or if people want to buy them as well. This company has many great benefits…

  1. they are local in Ottawa
  2. they offer Free shipping, even in Ottawa
  3. the minimum shirt order is $24 for….$6.99 each, and…they go down more if you buy more
  4. they can help you build a logo or do it for you, but they didn’t say the price

The company is called Ottawa Custome Clothing. Here’s where I found the deal for $6.99 t-shirts on Kijiji. If you do use their service, please write in the comments below what you thought of them and…attach a photo of what you got done.

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Discover my lifes purpose – Day 1

OK, so it’s Day 1, November 19, 2016 and I found a woman online who’s name is Suzanne Adam and she has a few questions that I need to ask myself to help me find my life’s purpose.Once I asked the questions, I am to sit quietly and ask my higher self to give me an answer in a way that would KNOCK me on the head so that I would completely understand. That’s the problem right now. My higher self is the problem, or so I think. My head is in the way!

Here are the questions:

1. What do I love to do?

2. What brings me joy?

3. What comes naturally and easy to me?

4. What is my life purpose?


OK, so lets see what my higher self answers.

Question #1 – What do I love to do?

Eat, drink, travel down south, help people find answers to their problems, hang out with fun friends, sit in a hot tub, play volleyball, make my man happy.

Question #2 – What brings me joy?

All the things I said above.

Question #3 – What comes naturally and easy to me?

finding information online, talking to strangers, writing about whatever I want.

Question #4 – What is my life purpose?

Helllooooo? That’s what I was hoping you would answer. I DON’T KNOW! OK, so those questions didn’t work. However, she sent me a meditation audio. I’m going to try it and let you know how it goes.

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What’s my life purpose?

What’s my f…ing life purpose

Are you trying to figure out what you want to do with your life?
Do you constantly hear the word “purpose”.  That word frustrates me because I DON’T KNOW WHAT MINE IS!life-purpose

I see people going to work who are happy and seem to love what they do. I have friends and colleagues I work with who love their jobs. Why is it that they found their calling, but I haven’t found mine yet? Why? Well, I’m about to embark on a journey to figure out what MY life’s purpose is and hopefully within the next year.

I found this great picture from that caught my attention. I am going to read everything I can, attend workshops, write test to learn about my skills and abilities, talk to career coach, learn about law of attraction, self development, go to a psychic, see a numerologist. What ever I can get my hands on to bring me closer to my purpose.

If you have suggestions, please send them my way and depending how much they cost, I will check it out. However, if you want to trade services, email me at

And lets get started on the journey…

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